Celebrate or Mourn?

4.18.2011 — 2 Comments


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We just returned home from a two-day celebration of the life of Wilson D. Miller, my grandfather. It truly was a celebration of his life and his ‘home-going’.

I am so thankful to be a part of a family that celebrates AND mourns.

Did you catch that? “celebrates AND mourns”…

I think sometimes Christians live by an ‘either/or’ option here instead of a both and. Those who celebrate WITHOUT mourning quote Matthew 8:12, where Jesus tells his disciples to let the “dead bury their own dead”. Christians who find difficultly with the “celebration” part of a funeral of a co-heir with Christ might focus attention on Jesus visible grief at the death of Lazarus in John 11. In all honesty, “Jesus wept.” (11:35) doesn’t resemble joyful celebration at all, I don’t think.

I believe the healthy response to loss, rather, includes both mourning and celebration. I personally find it easier to ‘do’ the celebrating and much more difficult to ‘do’ the mourning. I recalled numerous memories over the past couple of days that enabled me to do both – and I’m thankful to have been surrounded by friends and family who walked and continue to walk that road together.

  • http://encouragement-is-contagious.blogspot.com Lee Ann/Mom G./ Grandma

    Your grandfather left a wonderful legacy and one that gave you cause to celebrate! I’m sure as he was looking down during the funeral that he was smiling at you and your hearts.

    That photo of your mom and dad and Ella in front of Stacia’s grave is so precious.

    Love,
    MOM Garrett

    • http://encouragement-is-contagious.blogspot.com Lee Ann/Mom G./ Grandma

      Oops, I should have reread what I wrote before clicking submit. “he was looking down during the funeral “and was” smiling at you and your hearts.”